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How do you become vulnerable when all you've been taught is vulnerability is a sign of weakness? Want to learn, read here!

Mistakes are guiding post, and not an excuse to hurt yourself. Learn how to interpret mistakes in a way that nurtures your self-esteem.

The truth is When you don’t believe in your greatness, you find any standard, person, or lifestyle to make yourself wrong, ugly, undeserving

If you know my work, you know that I condone anger and revenge. I know a lot of people are surprised by this, but I think there is a place

When your mother was a child, her parents were abusive. Like all children, she adopted a coping mechanism to shield her from abuse.

My parents never spoke about dating. It wasn't a conversation that was ever had. When I started to date, I hid it from my family. They never

Life can be cruel. It can beat you up. It can take away that sparkle in your eye. It can also uplift you. It can make you feel like you met God. It can create a moment so spectacular that it feels like a movie. If you lived a life you know that it has extremely high highs and extremely low lows . Amid those extremes, you have to hold onto something pure, untouched, godly, or untainted to keep you going in those moments. One phrase that I use to help me tap into my source is t

Both men and women have critical internal voices. The only difference is that the world often prepares men to make rejection impersonal,

Today is a good day, you say to yourself after waking up. You stretch, take your vitamins, open the curtains, and prepare for this good day you’ve already declared. Out of nowhere, an intrusive thought shows up and whispers, “Remember when your heart was broken?”, “Do you want to go over the moment where you had to leave the person you liked?” “Would you like to replay all of your breakups?” Now, at this moment you have two choices. You can indulge your thoughts or you can re

Mr. Self-Help and Mr. Therapy is the latest iteration of strategies men use to gain your trust.

Every day I hear new stories about women being flexible with their boundaries and subsequently exploited

A lot of girls are/were dummy bitches. They took their foremothers' survival techniques in a more violent form of patriarchy and thought

What lessons did your parents provide to prepare for the challenges in the dating world? My parents taught me about the value of knowing exactly who you are. Staying true to that person and to always listen to my inner voice. What is one lesson from CTB that impacted you the most and drastically changed your dating? The most drastic lesson I learned from CTB is that men are just men. They don't have to be the center of my universe. She's taught me to center myself, in retu

Friends are amazing. They can fill your life with so many colors. They can encourage you and be your source of support.

Your good friend has been melancholy for a while. You used to invite her out. Encourage her to live a little, but after every event, she would talk about the same old thing- her ex. You are tired of it and you are bored with these conversations. You suggest therapy because the circular conversations are draining. You suggest books to help her get out of her rut. She doesn’t want to read them and She doesn’t believe she needs therapy. Finally, you step back because you can onl

(Spoiler Alert) There are relationships where It does not take heavy lifting to truly connect. Those relationships are often highlighted in the media. The audience usually follows the main character who one day stumbles upon their romantic or non-romantic soulmate and live happily ever after. These relationships experience bumps in the road, but they often get back on track. The show ends with a condensed version of human relating and the audience is left hopeful

A young woman meets a guy. The man and woman date and fall in love. While in this process, her guy tells her a story of his dream. He believ

You meet this cute guy that looks extremely good on paper. The only problem is he talks to you like you have no knowledge of anything and presses you for sex. You give in to sex because you want him so bad. He looks so good in the picture you've already painted in your mind. I mean you have absolutely no evidence of this, but hey he is fine and sex may put you ahead of the others. You leave the interaction feeling off and you don’t know why. In reality, you pandered and used

A couple of years ago I had a big shift. I took all of the energy I used obsessing about men and decided to focus on me.

If you've been keeping up with Insecure, you've followed the story of Molly. Molly is an archetypal successful woman who fails at love.